Talking to Your Children About Mental Health (Especially in May)

Talking to Your Children About Mental Health (Especially in May)

#MentalHealthAwarenessMonth

Mental Health Awareness Month is a great time to open up conversations at home. But here’s the key: this shouldn’t feel like a “big serious talk.”

The goal is to make mental health part of everyday life, normal, safe, and judgment-free.

Start Simple and Age-Appropriate

Young kids don’t need clinical terms, they need language they understand.

Ages 3–7:

Talk about feelings like “happy,” “sad,” “mad,” or “scared.”

“What made you feel happy today?”

Ages 8–12:

Introduce stress, worry, and coping skills.

“What do you do when something feels overwhelming?”

Teens:

Be more direct about anxiety, depression, and social pressure.

“A lot of teens feel stressed—how has it been for you lately?”

Listen More Than You Talk

Kids shut down quickly if they feel judged or corrected.

Let them finish their thoughts, even if they’re messy

Avoid jumping in with solutions right away

Reflect back:

“That sounds really frustrating”

You’re building trust, not fixing everything in one conversation

Make it clear that mental health is just like physical health.

“Everyone has feelings, and they change”

“It’s okay to not feel okay sometimes”

Share your own (appropriate) experiences:

“I felt really stressed today, so I took a walk”

This teaches kids that emotions are manageable—not scary.

Teach Coping Skills Early

Give them tools, not just awareness.

Deep breathing or quiet time

Physical activity (walking, sports)

Creative outlets (drawing, music, journaling)

Even simple habits build resilience over time.

Keep the Door Open

This matters more than saying the “perfect” thing.

Remind them often:

“You can always talk to me, no matter what

Don’t force conversations; create opportunities (car rides, bedtime, meals)

Revisit the topic regularly, one talk isn’t enough

Reach out for help in how to address mental health issues with your family and children

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Immediate Help & Crisis Lines

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988

Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741

Veterans Crisis Line: Call 988 then press 1, or text 838255

Disaster Distress Helpline: 1-800-985-5990

The Trevor Project (LGBTQ youth): 1-866-488-7386 or text START to 678-678. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5]